Let us imagine this scenario.

Tobi (purely fictional) goes to the hospital to run some tests. He has had several bouts of fever and persistent coughing for some days now.

“It must be these mosquitoes”, he said to himself.

His doctor writes down a series of tests.

After the rounds of tests, he is told that he is HIV positive.

Tobi is devastated. ” How did this happen?”

“I have always been careful”, “what will happen to me now?”, and “am I dying?”.

All these thoughts ran through Tobi’s mind frantically as he was being counselled by the doctor.

After counselling and taking his drugs, Tobi manages to calm down and goes home. He believed his doctor, everything would be fine.

At home, he discloses his status to his parents and siblings, all of whom assured him that everything would be fine, just like his doctor.

It wasn’t obvious at first, but he began to notice the subtle changes in the attitude of his parents and siblings towards him.

It was in the way everyone began to avoid his personal effects, the way they looked at him with pity and the way they became quiet as soon as he stepped into the room.

Then Tobi thought to himself, “if my family could treat me this way, how would others treat me?”

So he decided to keep his HIV status secret from every other person.

This is just one person’s decision, but the ripple effect could be shattering. This decision can lead so many others to become HIV positive, all because of stigmatization.

HIV is not a “we” versus “them” problem.

We are all affected by it one way or another.

People living with HIV are still as normal as those living without it.

They can work, become leaders of industries and nations, get married, birth HIV-negative children, and live amazing lives, with the right support, love and encouragement, just like everyone else.

It all begins with you and me. Let’s get rid of our biases.

It is the only way we can get rid of HIV entirely.

 

Queen Ugwoeru, 2022 LeNNiB Champion