I met Bisi (not real name) during one of my process evaluation trips.  Bisi had come to one of the adolescent health clinics set up by the A360 project in Nigeria to facilitate access of adolescent females to sexual and reproductive health services including contraception. Bisi knows she is sexually active. She should be sexually active because she is married with a child. She and her husband had decided to space their children and so she had accessed the clinic and taken up a contraceptive method of her choice.

For some reason, her mother-in-law learnt she had taken up a method. Bisi received the worst abuse I can personally imagine. She was shown around in the public to passer-byes, neighbours and those who care to listen as a promiscuous girl who had gone to access contraception. Her husband who was around could not save her from the shame and torture his mother made her face. They were both young persons and still living with and being cared by the woman.

As young persons who had fallen in love and had started having sex, they both took the decision to marry when Bisi became pregnant. They had little income. The mother-in-law took the couple in and continued to provide financial support to husband, wife and child. Bisi had no job so she was financially dependent on both husband and mother-in-law.

The story of Bisi is replicated in many communities in Nigeria. Many adolescents are sexually active. Sadly, many cannot access sexual and reproductive health services because parents, health care providers and community members who are aware of this fact, simply choose to turn a blind eye to the need of this population.

Adolescents are getting sexually matured much earlier. The social media promotes sexual relationships. Peer pressures make adolescents commence sexual relationships as many who do not have sex partners are the mocked and taunted by peers.

Many do not want to get pregnant. They understand the implications of unwanted pregnancies. Yet the allure of having sexual relationships – being ‘in’ with peers, access to financial support from boyfriends, enjoying sex – makes them face making the choice between the devil and the deep blue sea. Almost all of them choose sex and defer to myths and misconceptions to prevent pregnancies: jump several times after sex; drink bitter lemon with lots of salt after sex. For those that get pregnant, there are lots of remedies resorted to abort the pregnancies.  Abortion comes with several complications.

The A360 project in Nigeria – implemented by Society for Family Health and funded by Bill and Melinda Gates foundation and State Government – plans to facilitate access of sexually active adolescents 15-19 years to modern contraception. The programme will however, not succeed without parental and community support.

The problems are huge. We however need to start somewhere to address the sexual and reproductive health crisis many adolescents and young persons in Nigeria face one of which is poor access to contraception.

Bisi’s story would have been different if she had had access to contraception. As a sexually active adolescent, she could have prevented the first pregnancy, continued with her educational programme, and delayed her marriage till when she could be finally independent enough to support her family. We need parents and communities to support sexually active adolescents’ access to contraception.